Permission To Be Human
It is something we often talk about in a longing way…
“I wish we just had time to slow down and be together.” Or “We are never all home at the same time!” And now, for the past couple of months (depending on where you live), EVERYONE is home ALL THE TIME. Only, this isn’t the “slowing down” we were talking about, right? So, what do we do now that we are all home- TOGETHER- in new, uncertain, unplanned for circumstances with so many questions, feelings, and fears running around in our heads and hearts?
In Positive Psychology we talk a lot about the parts of our life we can “control.” It’s a short list really – I can control: what I feel, what I think, and what I do. That’s it. That is the list.
Words = Meaning + Intention
Helping Children Handle Strong Emotions
Chris Fraser is a mental health therapist with children and families with over 25 years of experience. In this video Chris shares practical tools and useful wisdom that children can use to calm their worries during this time of quarantine and beyond. Once worries are calmed and cared for Chris teaches that the worries can just go along for the ride as children learn to take action on those things they care about or need to do.
No Wonder It Does Not Spark Joy!
I work with many clients with hoarding challenges. They have helped me to see and heal the 'hoarder' in me and others who come to see me NOT because of hoarding. I will use my own examples to clarify what I mean, and hope parts of this article resonate and are helpful for you:
I came from an academic background. 'Researcher' used to be my identity. Being someone skilled at conducting research still constitutes part of my self-value today, even though I have acquired a new identity as a therapist. Early this year I applied for a research grant to conduct a clinical trial on hoarding. However, my proposal was not funded, and the comments I received felt hurtful and hard to swallow. A week after getting these comments, I found myself saying yes and engaging in a dozen professional projects of various scales - I felt pride and heard my inner chatter saying, “I don't need the useless grant to do what I CAN do!” Anger was with me.
I've Been Holding Out on You... and Myself
Recently, it was lovingly and assertively brought to my attention by my coach that I’ve been holding out on all of you, and myself. I’ve been keeping quiet about one of the most important things about my business: who I work with, and ultimately, what I do.
Ouch!
I felt that sting. I let it sink in for a moment, and in that space -- that place of pause, I knew she was right.